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7 steps to catching a great guy

Posted July 23

What is the trick to catching a great guy? It’s really not a matter of your body type or hair color, but more about who you are. Follow these steps to get a great guy to fall in love with you:

1. Be kind

The world has enough mean people in it, so be kind instead — it's a very attractive quality. Wait patiently in line, say please and thank you, stand up for someone who is being bullied, be a courteous driver and don’t gossip about others.

Believe it or not, guys notice these things. They see how you treat your friends and your family, and how you act around strangers. Being kind is something that makes you stand out as a good person (and great catch).

2. Be genuine

There is nothing attractive about fake people. Someone who puts on a different face depending on who they are around isn't marriage material. Someone who is all about looks and couldn’t care less about personality isn't someone you'd want to date.

Instead, be real. Don’t hide behind designer clothes and fake principles, instead be true to yourself.

3. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself

None of us like to be embarrassed, but when you can take a humiliating situation and look at it from an outside perspective, it is probably pretty funny.

Show that you aren’t afraid to laugh at yourself. By letting your guard down and proving you aren’t perfect, you show a potential mate that you don’t take yourself too seriously. This may encourage them to let their guard down as well, giving you both the chance to get to know each other even better.

4. Be selfless

We may not think that being selfish is something that stands in the way of catching a great guy, but it can. When you're not willing to see a movie he wants to see, or won’t ever change your plans, you are being selfish.

Being willing to give up something you want for someone else shows that you are a good person. It shows you're someone who cares about others and not just yourself. A good guy is definitely going to look for a selfless woman.

5. Take care of yourself

You don’t have to be a size zero to catch a great guy, but by being healthy, having good hygiene and eating the right foods, you'll be sure to catch his eye (no matter your size).

Doing these things shows you care about yourself. Having healthy habits pays off now and later on in life — a man will realize you want to live a happier and longer life and want to share that same goal. He'll see these qualities in you and think you're a catch.

6. Have goals

When you set and complete goals, it speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. It shows that you know the value of hard work. It shows you aren’t afraid to dream big, and are someone who can actually accomplish their goals, not just talk about them.

Don’t be afraid to share your accomplishments, even on a first date. It shows that you are driven and prepared for the future — things a good guy wants in his date.

7. Have an opinion

It's normal to want to agree with everything your crush says or does, but having your own opinion shows your unique personality. Having a friendly disagreement livens up a relationship and shows him you're someone he can actually talk with, not just talk to.

Being able to have discussions not only makes things more interesting, but also shows you aren’t afraid to back down. Instead, you're someone who fights for your ideas, which is an admirable quality.

The ultimate trick to catching a great guy is being a great gal. Being kind and genuine, taking care of yourself and being an overall good person is going make anyone anxious to date you over someone who is fake, rude and lazy.

Follow these steps for yourself and make sure the man you're dating also has these qualities — if you do that, you'll not only find yourself a great guy, you'll also find yourself a great relationship.

Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in Anthropology and a masters in Psychology. She lives in Orange County, CA and is a mother of twins. Contact her at Meganshauri@gmail.com

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