7 specific and simple solutions to your marriage problems
Posted May 30
"Marriage is like a bank account," said Irwin Corey. The quality of your relationship is up to you — it depends on how much time, love and energy you are willing to invest. But even in a perfect marriage, there are problems that can arise almost daily. Luckily there are also simple solutions to these marriage problems:
1. Having a bad attitude
If you spend your days in a bad mood, thinking about everything you have to do, you fill your home with stress. You lose sight of what matters and will most likely end up spreading that negative energy in your home.
Solution: Wake up every morning and take a deep breath. Take a few minutes being grateful for another day of life and for that wonderful person you have by your side. Smile more and enjoy your life with your partner.
2. Forgetting to hug and kiss your spouse
Daily physical affection is more important than you might know, both for you and your relationship. Neglecting hugs and kisses will slowly erase your bond as a married couple.
Solution: Wake up your partner with a kiss or give a hug when you say goodbye in the morning. Do the same when you reunite later, or just surprise your sweetheart with a big hug when they least expect it. Hold hands when you walk and snuggle when watching TV. At all costs, keep these little touches alive.
3. Not communicating
Sometimes without realizing it, we build up walls that prevent easy communication in our relationship. They’re easy to create — things like accusing the other person, not sincerely listening to your spouse, not wanting to solve the problem, starting a fight (and not want to end it) bringing up past problems, raising your voice, insulting, and teasing your spouse can all create a wall.
Solution: Try to be patient and learn to forgive. Even if you are both stubborn and confrontational, just try it. Learn to fight fair and listen to your partner. Listen to their needs and do your best forgive and fix problems that come your way.
4. Forgetting to have fun
Do you remember that time when you met your wife and went out on dates, laughed and talked for hours? When you got married, did you forget that you can still have fun? It's all too easy to let the pressures of life and the routine of our week take over our lives, leaving little room for fun.
Solution: Set aside free time to just to have fun with your spouse. Take a class together, go for a walk, tell funny stories or a joke or go on date. It doesn't really matter what you do, just as long as it's fun.
5. Failing to make deposits in your love bank
Your marriage is the most important relationship you have. You must care for and cultivate it on a daily basis. It should be your top priority — over work, your social life and your other hobbies. If you are failing to keep your marriage in tip-top shape, here is the solution.
Solution: Do not take your spouse for granted. Do not stop thanking them for even the small things they do for you. Make a big deal out of important dates (like anniversaries and birthdays) and don't stop flirting. Remember, love needs care and attention to grow.
6. Emotionally attacking your spouse
One of the worst things that can happen in a marriage is when one spouse (or both) emotionally attacks their partner. This usually happens in a heated argument or when one partner forgets to consider the feelings of their spouse.
Solution: Follow the golden rule — do not do what you would not want done to you; do not say what you do not want to be told. Love more, be more affectionate, forgive and be kinder. If you ever insult your partner or hurt them, ask forgiveness and decide to not do it again.
7. Not forgiving your spouse
A common problem in marriage is not forgiving your spouse for their mistakes.
Solution: If you feel resentment toward your partner, learn to let it go. Do what you have to do to get rid of that weight. Talk to your partner, go to marriage counseling and make the habit of not leaving problems unresolved.
For a happy and healthy marriage be more loving and forgive often. Fill yourself with gratitude and be more aware of your partner’s feelings and needs. By doing these things, you will discover that by making your spouse happy, you are also happier.