7 signs he's ready to wed
Posted May 24
Not sure if the guy you want to wed is really ready to dive into a new life? Take notes, because the seven signs below will tell you a lot more than just saying “I do.”
1. Cosign needed
Some married men never get the memo that their days of making single-handed decisions is over. Well, you’ve got a keeper on your hands if your man voluntarily checks with you before making big decisions. He’s ready to be married because he knows his choices won’t just affect his life. As his partner, they affect your life, too. Consider yourself lucky and move ahead.
2. The marriage planner
Most men are not interested in the designer details of your big day, but do get a glow with the thought of watching you come down the aisle. But does the fantasy stop there? What about happily ever after? A man who is really ready to wed is interested in talking about the marriage, not just getting married. If he likes to discuss what marriage is going to be like, and the kind of marriage you and he want, you’re in good standing.
3. The “ours”
A man who’s ready to marry is responsible with his money. Not because it’s his money but because he sees it as household money. Even before marriage the right guy is acting as if you two are heading into the future together, and there is no room for selfish or irresponsible decisions moving forward.
4. Setting the tone
Guys who are ready to become husbands are responsible with their words. “Sticks and stones” no longer apply and words truly do hurt. He is careful to express himself respectfully and with integrity because he knows his attitude provides the foundation for a happy home, and your feelings of safety, security and confidence in the relationship.
Many men struggle with their health well into marriage and for much of their lives. But consider yourself lucky if you’ve found a guy who is responsible with his own health and yours! Jump for joy if your guy doesn’t encourage you to engage in unhealthy behaviors or habits. He doesn’t judge you for cheating on your diet or skipping your workout, but he doesn’t tempt you by eating cupcakes on the couch next to you either.
6. Better than sorry
Guys who are prepared to meet you at the end of the aisle have a history of not having to be sorry. Of course he makes mistakes, and he learns from them. But he also goes one step further than just not making them again. He makes an effort to understand the underlying nature of the problems you’ve faced and applies it to future situations. He learns by thinking better, not just doing better.
7. No surrender
A real future hubby never gives up. He fights for the relationship at every turn. He is strong in his resolve, and doesn’t run away, shut down or explode. Most importantly, he can actually communicate his feelings and focuses on solutions, rather than bashing you over the head with the problems.
A marriage license, ceremony and reception won’t change someone. If your guy is a responsible and considerate boyfriend or fiancée, he’ll make a responsible and considerate husband. If he doesn’t quite have these qualities down yet, take some time to let them develop before making things official.
Georgia D. Lee is a University of Miami Alumna who seeks to empower, inspire, enrich and educate anyone with an open mind, heart and spirit through her most treasured medium - black and white!