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6 ways to make your marriage the envy of all your friends

Posted March 9

We all have experienced that little green-eyed monster. The one that fills us with envy and makes us upset because we don’t have exactly what someone else has. And when it comes to relationships, envy can rear its head more than we want. It's simple to look at couples on social media and wonder why your relationship isn't like that?

No relationship is perfect, but there are things you can do to ensure you are happy...and give you that relationship everyone else wants for themselves:

1. Never say negative comments

There are going to be things your spouse does and says that drive you absolutely crazy. However, this doesn’t mean you make your spouse’s negative qualities the talking point at your girls’ night. The less you say about your spouse's flaws, the more others will view your relationship in awe.

2. Show interest in his hobbies

Spend time doing things your spouse loves to do. Go fishing with one another or make it a priority to attend his basketball games. Ask him questions about his hobbies and really listen. But remember, this works both ways. Talk to him about your own hobbies and do things together that you enjoy. Your friends will quickly give you both "the cutest couple" award.

3. Give him space and privacy

Even though you show interest in your spouse’s hobbies and talents, you need to find a happy medium. He needs time to himself — to develop his character, his self-worth, his gifts. Don’t be the needy wife. You don’t have to enjoy every activity together. Don’t become too overbearing or he may become resentful.

When you both get your alone time, you'll be a much happier couple when you are together.

4. Show it

Show your spouse just how much you love him. Hold hands at the grocery store. Sit by one another at the restaurant. Give one another a quick kiss if you arrive at an event at separate times. Small touches go a long way to improve and strengthen marriages and many couples lack them. These little actions are sure to make others swoon at how darling you both are.

5. You surprise one another

Little surprises show your spouse that you were thinking of him. These little things don’t have to be gifts or things you spend money on. Make your spouse his favorite meal or let him sleep in one weekend while you get a jumpstart on his honey-do list. Remember that it’s the little things that add up to make your marriage amazing.

6. You show mercy

We are human. You are going to make mistakes and so is your spouse. When those times come — and they’ll happen more than we like — we need to show mercy. Be forgiving. Don’t hold grudges. Being like a Disney princess and “letting it go" will help give you that fairytale marriage.

Marriage requires hard work and a lot of effort. It isn’t going to be perfect. There will be deep valleys and high mountains you have to climb. However, even if you look like you have it all together and really don’t, that’s OK. Love is hard — it always will be.

Courtnie is graduate from Utah State University with a degree in journalism. She lives in Idaho with her husband, energetic toddler and baby on the way.

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