6 signs he'll love you until the day he dies
Posted June 20
We all may think we know what love means and how to detect it in someone else, but it can be hard to separate true love from infatuation. To see if his love is superficial or the real deal, here are six signs to watch out for:
1. He’s willing to communicate
A man who loves you is willing to find ways to communicate. Talking about your feelings, sharing your concerns and talking things out isn’t easy, but understanding that communication is key in a good relationship means he's here for the long haul.
2. He says I’m sorry
It can be really hard to admit when you are wrong. Being humble, saying sorry and asking for forgiveness are all important aspects of a healthy relationship. When you love someone, you know your love is more important than your pride. If he says “I’m sorry”, then he plans on being with you for forever.
3. He is willing to work it out
Even if he knows how to communicate and say he’s sorry, fights still happen. In most cases, it's easier to just walk away, rather than sticking around to work it out. A lot of people just don’t realize how much work a marriage needs to be successful. After the "I do’s" comes the work. A lot of couples split at the first sign of storm clouds. But if he is willing to make it through the storm and wait with you for the sunny days, then he's not going to walk away.
4. He loves your imperfections
No one is perfect, and it's easy to complain and point out a person’s flaws, but if he reassures you that those are qualities he loves, then he's a keeper. Marriages get into trouble when one or both partners have unrealistic expectations for each other. That’s not to say you can’t encourage and believe in each other, but if you expect certain qualities and traits that are unrealistic, you'll soon be disappointed. Understanding each other’s best and worst qualities (and how to bring out the best in each other) is the key to being happy in your relationship.
5. He does what you want to do
A guy who is willing to put his own wants and desires aside to do what you want to do is a guy who is willing to stick around. When you put another’s wants and desires above your own, it's because your happiness depends on theirs — if they are happy, so are you. A man who knows that is a man who knows how to stay in a long-term relationship.
6. He knows what you need, even when you don’t
A man like this knows you better than you know yourself. He can tell when you’re upset, angry, happy, sad and knows just what to do to make you feel better. A man who pays that much attention and puts that much work into a relationship is not looking to jump ship, but rather wants to stay on board for the whole ride.
While these qualities really show you someone who loves and cares for you, they are not the only qualities to look for (there are too many to list!). Knowing what qualities matter in a relationship is the first step to understanding that someone wants to make it work.
Megan Shauri graduated with a bachelors in Anthropology and a masters in Psychology. She lives in Orange County, CA and is a mother of twins. Contact her at Meganshauri@gmail.com