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Thursday thoughts: Couponing with a conscience

Posted May 6, 2010

Have you ever had the frustration of going to the store for a good deal only to find out from a cashier that one shopper had bought 20 of the item and cleared the shelf? How about witnessing a customer have a meltdown because her coupon was not accepted? Recently, store managers have shared some pretty sad horror stories when it comes to coupon shoppers. Just last week, I watched a customer berate an employee at a local drug store in Cary because the shelf price was different than the price she paid. In demanding her refund, she was so rude and condescending to this calm employee that I was shocked. Everything from bad manners to outright cheating is happening at area stores every day, which is why I felt compelled to focus this week’s article on couponing with a conscience.

For many months now, I have written about all the fabulous techniques couponers use to cut our grocery bills in half. There are, however, some rules of etiquette that couponers should follow and some actions that couponers should definitely not take when shopping. Hopefully you have already been practicing ethical couponing, which makes the stores much more likely to continue offering their great promotions. For those of you new to the coupon game, these suggestions will help you, and everyone around you, have a more positive couponing experience.

Be kind to cashiers: This is my number one request. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen obnoxious customers hassle cashiers over something as silly as a coupon. The snide tone of voice, the eye rolling, the generally bad behavior is something you would expect from a 3 year old, not an adult speaking to another adult who is only trying to do his/her job. Even if the cashier is not handling a coupon the way you think it should be entered, ask politely to speak with a manager. If you are not able to resolve the issue with the manager, just don’t buy the item in question and call corporate to discuss the issue when you get home. It’s just a coupon, it’s not a reason to wage a grocery war. Trust me, the cashiers and managers all know who the difficult couponers are and they are never happy to see those folks come into their store. Even if the cashier is less than professional, don’t stoop to his or her level. Ask to speak with the manager and go from there.

Use coupons correctly on intended items: Just because a coupon may scan on another item by the same manufacturer (which sometimes happens), it does not mean it’s ok to use it on another item. This is called bar code manipulation and it is unethical. Follow the wording on the coupon regarding what product(s) you can use the coupon on and how many you need to buy. If the coupon requires you to buy 2 of the item, you need to buy 2.

Follow expiration dates: Many couponers have accidentally given a coupon to a cashier that has recently expired, not realizing the usage date had passed. These days, my arms aren't long enough to even read some of the expiration dates! Cashiers realize we all make mistakes and are usually fine when we apologize and understand that they can't take the coupon.  The issue is with people who intentionally use expired coupons.  The stores usually do not get reimbursed for these and it costs all of us money in the long run when stores pass on these losses in the form of higher prices and less promotions. Don’t try to pass expired coupons and hope you don’t get caught. Most stores are very clear that they don’t accept expired coupons. In some rare cases, if a coupon has just expired in the last day or so, some stores will still accept it if they can still send it in for reimbursement. Ask first and if they say no, you always have the option of not buying the item. You can actually send your expired coupons to the US military overseas. They can use expired coupons for up to 6 months after expiration date. Check out the Overseas Coupon Program for more information: Click HERE for the Overseas Coupon Program website.

Only use legit coupons: Coupons you received in an e-mail pdf file for free products are not legit. Coupons from manufacturer websites and many coupon printing websites are legit. Click HERE for a list of legit printable coupon sites.

No photocopying coupons: It’s right there on the coupon that it’s not ok to stick a printable coupon in your copy machine and make copies.

Follow store coupon policies: They actually work for your benefit. When stores have limits on the number of like items you can buy, it’s not because they want to make you mad. These limits are in place so one couponer doesn’t come in and clear the shelves leaving nothing for the rest of the shoppers.

Shelf clearing/hoarding = bad manners: As a follow up to the item above, shelf clearing is rude and makes it difficult for others to enjoy the good deals. I’m not talking about buying 3 or 4 of an item. I am referring to those who buy all the cases in stock of an item so they can have hundreds of something and nobody else gets any of that item. There will always be a good deal in the next couple weeks and there is no reason to hoard all the best buys.

Blinkie clearing = bad manners: It’s also very uncool to take all the blinkies or coupons from in-store displays. It’s fine to take some extras to share with friends, but grabbing an entire tear pad of coupons is not fair.

Coupon fairy: When you are not going to use a coupon, leave it on the shelf next to the product. When you are in line and cashier is impressed with a specific deal, give her an extra copy of the coupon so she can do the deal as well. Take a look at the products in the cart of the person in line behind you. Maybe you can give him or her a couple coupons to help save them a little extra money. Being a coupon fairy is an excellent way to pay it forward, do a good deed and spread a little happiness.

Warn those behind you in line: When you are the person with 1000 coupons, warn those who get in line behind you that you have a lot of coupons and it may take a while to get through the line. They will be very appreciative and you won’t have to deal with their eye rolling. Often, I have a lively couponing chat with those who choose to stay in line behind me. It’s also a good time to put on your coupon fairy wings and see if you have any coupons to share for items they are buying.

Let those with just a few items go ahead of you: If you have a cart full, it’s always nice to let someone with a couple items go ahead of you. It’s such an easy random act of kindness.

Tipping when dining with coupons: When using coupons at restaurants, base the tip on the pre-coupon total, not the after-coupon total.

When using e-coupons beware of stacking: and e-coupons are manufacturer’s coupons and are not intended to be used with paper manufacturer coupons on the same product (called stacking).

Be organized when you get to the register: Don’t be fumbling to find your coupons while people are waiting in line behind you. Before you head to the register, make sure you have everything you need and that your coupons are ready to be handed to the cashier. The easier we make it for the cashiers, the better it is for all couponers.

Shop off peak hours: Try not to do your big coupon shop during the busiest times of the day including lunch and right after work. Weekends are also very busy. Best times to shop (if possible) include weekdays during the day or later in the evening.

I encourage you to look at the big picture when deciding how to use coupons. As more people begin to coupon because of this difficult economy, the temptation may arise to stretch the boundaries for proper coupon use. I am not trying to be the coupon police, but for many families, couponing is a way to make ends meet. It allows them to afford to put food on the table and pay the rent or mortgage. If some couponers don’t follow the rules, it becomes more likely that stores and manufacturers will not offer the coupons and deals they now offer. If this happens, honest couponers who are just trying to support their families will suffer. If we do follow the coupon etiquette suggestions above, there is a much better chance that we can all continue to use coupons to help us live more comfortably within our means. You may not agree with all the thoughts I shared above but if you find yourself using coupons in a way that would be embarrassing to explain to your child, mom or religious school teacher, you may want to rethink your methods. The other very important reason to use good coupon etiquette is because it is simply the right thing to do.

Please share any other suggestions you have regarding couponing manners. Together we can all help each other to represent couponers in the very best light possible and save tons of our hard earned income. As I always say, it’s your money – spend it wisely!






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  • Faye Prosser - Smart Shopper May 12, 2010

    Good suggestion, Hoping! Someone else may want to use the coupons the kids are taking just to play with.

  • HopingForABetterWorld May 10, 2010

    Don't let your children walk around grabbing the blinkies just so they can play with it.

  • bredml02 May 7, 2010

    Hey Faye- I loved this article. Thanks for posting.

  • CicnyKid May 7, 2010

    BOBO @ HT with triple coups (up to $0.99) -- like last weekend or Super Doubles (up to $1.98) is the jackpot.

    My question: Often stores print out coupons at the register and they either say "MANUFACTURER Coupon" or "STORE Coupon." Also says Redeem at FL or HT or Kroger (what ever store you're at.)

    I only use the STORE coupon at that store. I have tried using the MANUFACTURER Coupon at stores other than the one supplying the coupon with hit/miss success. Sometimes they say they can't take it, and I nicely say it's says "manufacturer" on it. If they still say no, I accept their decision and don't argue with them. Often they say, "Let's try it" and when they do that, it always works. Note: The wording doesn’t say "Redeem ONLY at FL or HT or Kroger," is says "Redeem at FL or HT or Kroger," like it's more of a suggestion v. a requirement.


  • happy May 7, 2010

    I like being the coupon fairy! Why stick it back in my pile if I think it's not a good deal to begin with? I leave it on the shelf for someone that might be particularly in love with that product.

    My rule of thumb is, if the savings with the coupon don't make it the cheapest choice, I don't get it. There are exceptions to that with certain items but that is my general rule.

  • t0tAlChA0s May 7, 2010

    I will admitt I go blinkie shopping. But I never take more than 2. Hardly ever do I even remember to look for them. So I never have those coupons. The other day I was at the grocery store and I seen 2 people peeling alot of the BBQ sauce peelies off the bottle. I don't buy BBQ sauce but I don't know why someone needs 20 coupons only to buy one of that item. I won't take a peelie off unles I am going to by that item. If I buy an item that I have a coupon and a peelie on I will leave one there for the next person. I know how I feel when I finally see a blinkie for something I buy and it is empty.

  • wdombroski May 6, 2010

    @4Cats....I also have 4 cats and love coupons...I do try to give cashiers the coupons that require a price written on them with the item but often the cashier acts like I am being a pita so there is no win with this issue.

  • teacher101 May 6, 2010

    Okay, HT had some Beneful dog food on sale one or two weeks ago, I think it was B1,G1. Since I was "dog sitting", I figured that was good to get. I then looked at my receipt at the end and it had charged me for both. I just went up to the counter and asked about it - with flyer in hand, telling her that I wanted to find it first before looking like an idiot. Anyway, she and I found it and it said Beneful Dog Food, but I had purchased the puppy kind. I said that I didn't know it was specific because it just said dog food. They actually gave it to me. I was like, cool. I just wanted to be sure because if I was wrong, I was wrong, it wouldn't have mattered to me, but I thought I would check. Was I wrong? Should I have known it was only for one specific brand? Just curious. Oh and the dog sitting, has now turned into a dog. The people decided not to take him - guess it was a good thing I got the food. :)

  • Faye Prosser - Smart Shopper May 6, 2010

    Erika - most people who receive the $20 off $50 coupons live within a certain distance of one of their new stores. The new stores often send out coupons to bring in new shoppers for a few weeks after the store opens. Many times there are extra coupons at the customer service desk of these stores. You can let them know you did not receive the coupons in the mail but that you shop in that store and ask if they have an extra coupon you may use. Or you can move to a new HT just before each one opens. That would probably also work. :-)

  • dkg0502 May 6, 2010

    I went into CVS the other day to get the Nivea men's body wash deal. I wanted to check to see if there were any left before I dropped my daughter at her dance class and then I was going to come back and do some CVS shopping. There were about 6 or 7 bottles on the shelf so I figured I was safe in leaving and coming right back to do some shopping. Dropped off my daughter and was back to CVS in 20 minutes and they were ALL gone! I couldn't believe it. I think it's so selfish when people just clear the shelves! Who needs 6 bottles of body wash!?? Really frustrating. There are great deals every week and hoarding is just not necessary!