5 of the most common marriage arguments solved
Posted April 16
After a couple years of marriage, there seem to be topics that always elicit some sort of argument.
Some of those particular arguments vary on situation and the couple, but many of them are also the same across the marriage board.
They usually have to do with money, chores, words, friends and time.
So why are these topics so frequently argued about, and how can they be solved?
Here are some solutions to these 5 common marriage arguments, so you can finally stop having them, or at least know how to solve them.
1. You don’t spend enough quality time together
You both have busy lives with overly full schedules. Finding time to spend alone together as a couple can be very difficult, in fact, it causes some contention between you two at times.
The reality of it all is that your schedule won’t get any emptier and time doesn’t grow on trees, but if you make an effort to sit down and commit to spend some times together, it will happen.
Also at night when you are next to each other in bed and the kids are finally asleep, turn off the electronics. Sitting next to each other playing on the phone isn’t quality times. Look at each other, kiss each other, and pay attention to what the other is saying.
2. There is never enough money
Money is a discussion frequented by most couples, and usually it’s because one of you is not happy about the fact that there just never seems to be enough money.
Once again this is something that can only be solved through conceited effort shown from both parties to sit down and agree on a concrete budget. Then you both need to stick to it!
You will find by doing this you both will be on the same page, and realize what needs to be done to not feel like you are always struggling.
3. Your spouse can be mean sometimes
Everyone reacts to things a little differently, especially when it comes to jokes and sarcasm.
These feelings can also change over time just because of preference or experience, so while your wife or husband maybe used to be ok with you making sarcastic remarks or using funny nicknames, this could not be the case anymore.
Remember to be honest and open with your spouse if their remarks bother you, and be open to hearing the same from them.
4. You don’t do equal housework
In all honesty there will never be a time when you and your spouse truly do “equal” amounts of housework or work in general.
There may be times when it seems that you are always cleaning up and keeping up the house, but at the same time your spouse may feel the same.
It also comes down to personal preference, because one spouse may be ok with a little clutter, while the other one wants everything to be squeaky-clean.
This once again goes back to open and honest communication, and also being willing to compromise. You might have to be ok with a little clutter sometimes, or maybe be willing to help the house be spit-spot.
5. You’re not super fond of each other’s friends
This is one that might not come up as much as the others, but it is still an issue a lot of couples deal with.
Maybe he has that one college roommate who still acts like an immature frat-boy, or you have that one friend who seems to be in everyone’s business.
What you both have to understand is you can’t tell each other who you can and can’t be friends with; that just isn’t fair. But what you can do is be patient and kind when you are around them, and don’t talk badly about them to your spouse.
You won’t always be with them, so when you are be a good sport and try to have fun. Your husband and wife will greatly appreciate it.
Tamsyn Valentine is part of the content team at FamilyShare.com. She graduated with a degree in communication with an emphasis in public relations and journalism. Tamsyn has written and edited for Scroll, BYU-Idaho's newspaper.