5 destructive red flags men look for in their relationships
Posted January 25
Red flags clue men and women in on when a relationship isn't going to work out. Though there are many red flags that both genders look for, these five are almost always deal-breakers for men:
1. Outrageous reactions
Women are known to react with more emotion, unlike men who react more logically. Overreacting is a huge red flag that will encourage any man to end the relationship. Putting all the blame on him ("it's all your fault") and thinking all your past boyfriends are jerks are all examples of being emotionally outrageous.
2. Double standards
No one likes double standards...but women can occasionally expect men to do things they don’t want to do themselves. Here are a few examples:
- Expecting constant attention— Women who are insecure, clingy or needy expect the man to only have eyes for them, but in return, don't give him any attention at all.
- Being disrespectful— When a woman demands courtesy and respect for her decisions and desires, but then doesn’t let her man share any of his opinions.
- Demanding passwords — Women who ask for all the passwords of her man’s social media accounts, but then won't share the same in return.
- Secret relationship — A woman wants to keep their relationship secret, but still expects you to devote your attention to her and flaunt your time together.
Good, long-lasting relationships are hard and take time. Men pay attention to how how women have treated their past boyfriends and how they treat the people around them. Women who are rude to a waiter, who struggle to get along with other friends and family, have been unfaithful in past relationships and thinks she is above apologizing are huge red flags for any man.
4. Lacks appreciation
Men and woman both need to be validated and appreciated in a relationship if things are going to work out. A woman who ignores the needs of her man and solely focuses on what she wants doesn’t appreciate him and the effort he is making. If she jumps into the relationship without really getting to know and appreciate her mister, that's a red flag that she doesn't appreciate who he is as a person. Women who disrespect personal boundaries and who lack gratitude also fall into this category.
5. Missing work ethic
If she doesn't care to work hard now, why would she in your relationship? Laziness is a relationship killer. Women suffering from the "princess syndrome" expect to be handed everything on a silver platter — from money, to food, to shoes. She's unwilling to work for the things she wants. Another sign of a missing work ethic is a blank resume. A woman who has never tried to work and has avoided school has never made an effort to work hard. Women in this category are unwilling to push through and make a relationship last when things get tough.
Women: these five red flags can trigger a breakup, so make sure you don't fall into any of these categories. Men, realize that no women is perfect, so be particular about what you call a deal breaker...but don't put up with a woman who doesn't treat you right.
Stacie Simpson is a journalism student. She loves listening to, gathering and sharing stories and advice to help others improve their quality of life. She spends most of her free time with her husband, ballroom dancing, reading and writing.