21 relationship mistakes you will never make again
Posted July 26, 2016
We all have experienced good and bad relationships, but what makes the difference between success and failure?
Here is a list of 21 relationship mistakes to avoid:
1. Being too desperate
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship, but when you are constantly throwing yourself at the nearest thing that breathes, your relationship might not turn out well. Being able to feel complete on your own is the key to a successful relationship.
2. Shallow thinking
Looks seem to be everything these days, especially to young people. What we forget is that looks do not last. At a young age, wrinkles and gray hairs haven’t sprouted, but they will. Do not base a potential significant other only on their appearance.
3. Settling for anyone
Settling for any living thing is a big mistake. Don’t force a relationship to work when it is not what you want. No one likes to be lonely, but it is better to be single than to force yourself into a toxic relationship.
4. Constant texting
In this new generation, couples begin to grow anxious when they aren’t constantly texting one another. Being able to trust each other when you aren’t together is a vital part of a healthy relationship. Give each other space.
5. Moving too fast
If you are beginning to hear wedding bells after only two dates, you may need to take time to slow things down. Just because they seem to be compatible doesn’t mean you have seen all sides of them. Let your relationship flow at a healthy pace.
6. Staying with someone when they don’t make you happy
If you constantly find yourself complaining about your partner’s actions or interests, or if they keep disappointing you, don’t settle for the relationship. Don’t sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of someone else.
7. Running away from commitment
Commitment can be frightening, but it is not the end of the world. Don’t walk away from someone just because you are afraid of getting hurt or settling down. In truth, if this person is amazing and you love them, they will make your life nothing but better.
8. Making a mountain out of a molehill
Don’t be quick to get upset about the small stuff. Don’t make a fuss out of simple things; doing so is not healthy for any relationship. Save the argument for something that truly matters.
9. Getting serious too quickly
When the heat is rising quickly, it is best to take a step back and evaluate the situation. Do you truly know this person through and through? Do they know you? Don’t force commitment on them. Let things happen naturally.
10. Having an ideal list
Having a list that consists of blonde, blue eyes and looks like Ryan Gosling is a quick way to set your relationships up for failure. Don’t pass on going out with someone great just because they don’t measure up to all of the qualities on your list. If so, you will find yourself disappointed often.
11. Your relationship takes up everyone’s social media feed
Your relationship is between you and your partner. Too often people share more photos or experiences with their partner on Facebook than they should. A healthy relationship means spending time with each other, not depending on other people to silently judge and issue their opinions through constant posts.
12. Being selfish
If your previous relationship was only based on your needs and your ideas, there is a reason it failed. You must be willing to compromise and make sacrifices for another person.
13. Not communicating
If you constantly beat around the bush and expect your partner to read your mind, it only leads to frustration and confusion for both of you. Be honest and open about your feelings. Communication is the most important aspect of marriage.
14. Only using dating sites
Although many happy couples have been found through dating websites and apps, there is still the traditional way of walking up to someone in a coffee shop and giving them your number. The real world can be more trustworthy than the digital world at times.
15. Taking things too personally
If you can’t take a joke or if you feel like everyone is out to get you, there may be a lot of tension in your relationship. Don’t take every comment personally or it may backfire.
16. Taking them for granted
In the hustle and bustle of the day, remember to give your partner attention. Don’t ignore them. Even if you are too busy to see one another, make a phone call, shoot a text or just let them know that you are thinking about them. Relationships call for attention, even if it only lasts for a small moment.
17. Not giving them space
Don’t be overbearingly clingy with your partner. Let them have space. Healthy relationships are about feeling comfortable with and without each other.
18. Comparing your partner to an ex
Your partner is the only thing that matters now. Don’t compare them to anyone. Not your ex, not their mother, just them. They are the present and the potential future, everyone else in the past should stay there.
19. Jumping to conclusions
Don’t be quick to blame or make assumptions based on the smallest information or action. If your partner gets a text from an old ex, don’t quickly assume they are cheating, communicate and talk about the situation before pointing fingers.
20. Trying to change your significant other
You are their partner, you are not their trainer. It’s true that some people can change, but people only change through love, and it is your job to love them.
21. Giving up on your partner
Don’t be quick to throw in the towel on a beautiful relationship. Hardship, sickness and trials all come into play at some point. Work through the hard times together and you will find your relationship becoming stronger and better in the aftermath.