20 stages when you're twenty-something

Posted May 23

The 20s are full of emotions and experiences- some pleasant, others not so much. Here are 20 stages you go through when you're 20-something:

1. Excited

Life is just getting started and it is oh so exciting! The future is full of unknowns but you are eager and ready for anything.

2. Ambitious

You have everything going for you. The sky is the limit. You’re going to crush the whole college thing and change the world. Your head is full of dreams and goals and plans.

3. Crazy

Sometimes you are straight-up crazy. You stay up all night and survive on microwave meals and sugar. You go on last-minute road trips. You run from the cops and try things you’ve never done before. You get in trouble. But hey, you’re 20-something and this is YOUR life.

4. Adventurous

You travel. You explore. You leave the country. You get the ultimate profile pic.

5. Obsessed

With boys. Duh.

6. Committed

You commit to a major, a program, or a job. This is your calling, this is where you belong, and you settle in for the long haul.

7. Driven

You work really, really hard: school. Job. Relationships. You try to please everyone and go, go, go.

8. Social

Your friends become family and you do everything with your squad. You will be part of each other’s lives forever.

9. Tired

Alright, you’re exhausted. This lifestyle is catching up with you and you’re tired of everything. You need a break from life but the load never seems to ease up.

10. Jaded

The enthusiasm you once felt is fading. You’re bored with life.

It’s Friday night but all you want to do is stay home, eat dinner in bed, and watch TV.

11. Homesick

One day you wake up and don’t want to be an adult anymore. You’re tired of being independent, and you just want to go back to the good old days when your parents paid the bills and made you food. Your bed was so comfy back then, and you were safe and taken care of.

12. Confused

Is this really what I want to do with my life? Why am I here? What is my purpose?

How do I get rich really fast?

What is wrong with men? Where do I find a good guy? Do I even want to get married?

Who am I?


13. Frustrated

All of your best laid plans are slipping through your fingers. Opportunities fall through, doors are closed, and dreams fall to pieces. This is not how you imagined your life going.

14. Realistic

Your goals and ambitions become more realistic. You still dream big but you better understand the complexities of life and what you can and can’t control. Some things fall into place, others don’t, and that’s okay.

15. Content

You’re going to be alright. Your friends aren’t going anywhere and your family will stand by you forever. There is no need to fear.

16. Pleasantly surprised

New doors open and unexpected opportunities arise.

17. Certain

You make big life decisions and commitments. You know the significance of these choices, and you are sure.

18. Amazed

Your life is nothing like you imagined it, but somehow it’s better.

19. Grateful

You realize that all the detours and dead-ends led you somewhere beautiful. You are thankful for your trials and realize that God knew your destination all along. You get sentimental thinking about the people in your life that love and support you, and you feel grateful for all of the experiences that have shaped you into someone new. You have come a long way and you are proud.

20. Happy


Alyssa graduated with a degree in Middle East Studies & Arabic and continually adds to her list of random life experiences as she faces one adventure after another. With too many hobbies to count she especially loves hip-hop, soccer, and photography.


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