20 stages when you're twenty-something
Posted May 23, 2016
The 20s are full of emotions and experiences- some pleasant, others not so much. Here are 20 stages you go through when you're 20-something:
Life is just getting started and it is oh so exciting! The future is full of unknowns but you are eager and ready for anything.
You have everything going for you. The sky is the limit. You’re going to crush the whole college thing and change the world. Your head is full of dreams and goals and plans.
Sometimes you are straight-up crazy. You stay up all night and survive on microwave meals and sugar. You go on last-minute road trips. You run from the cops and try things you’ve never done before. You get in trouble. But hey, you’re 20-something and this is YOUR life.
You travel. You explore. You leave the country. You get the ultimate profile pic.
With boys. Duh.
You commit to a major, a program, or a job. This is your calling, this is where you belong, and you settle in for the long haul.
You work really, really hard: school. Job. Relationships. You try to please everyone and go, go, go.
Your friends become family and you do everything with your squad. You will be part of each other’s lives forever.
Alright, you’re exhausted. This lifestyle is catching up with you and you’re tired of everything. You need a break from life but the load never seems to ease up.
The enthusiasm you once felt is fading. You’re bored with life.
It’s Friday night but all you want to do is stay home, eat dinner in bed, and watch TV.
One day you wake up and don’t want to be an adult anymore. You’re tired of being independent, and you just want to go back to the good old days when your parents paid the bills and made you food. Your bed was so comfy back then, and you were safe and taken care of.
Is this really what I want to do with my life? Why am I here? What is my purpose?
How do I get rich really fast?
What is wrong with men? Where do I find a good guy? Do I even want to get married?
Who am I?
All of your best laid plans are slipping through your fingers. Opportunities fall through, doors are closed, and dreams fall to pieces. This is not how you imagined your life going.
Your goals and ambitions become more realistic. You still dream big but you better understand the complexities of life and what you can and can’t control. Some things fall into place, others don’t, and that’s okay.
You’re going to be alright. Your friends aren’t going anywhere and your family will stand by you forever. There is no need to fear.
16. Pleasantly surprised
New doors open and unexpected opportunities arise.
You make big life decisions and commitments. You know the significance of these choices, and you are sure.
Your life is nothing like you imagined it, but somehow it’s better.
You realize that all the detours and dead-ends led you somewhere beautiful. You are thankful for your trials and realize that God knew your destination all along. You get sentimental thinking about the people in your life that love and support you, and you feel grateful for all of the experiences that have shaped you into someone new. You have come a long way and you are proud.
Alyssa graduated with a degree in Middle East Studies & Arabic and continually adds to her list of random life experiences as she faces one adventure after another. With too many hobbies to count she especially loves hip-hop, soccer, and photography.