17 signs you married a real gentleman
Posted December 22, 2016
In the quest for true love, we most often fail. We fail because we all tend to fall for the bad boys or the cool guys, when all we really want is to find a gentleman to love us and treat us right. If you married a true gentleman, then he probably possesses most, if not all, of the following qualities:
1. He’s not afraid to ask for help or admit he doesn’t know something
Men tend to think they have to be all-knowing, but a true gentleman has enough confidence to admit when he’s wrong and recognizes when someone knows more than him.
2. He is honest, always
A strong sense of integrity is a sure sign you have found one of the good ones. Honesty is key in relationships and life, but gentlemen are never rude.
3. He’s got a great sense of humor
He loves to laugh and he loves to make you laugh. Gentlemen know that laughter is the essence of life and they live for it.
4. He’s not afraid of witty banter
This one probably seems a little bit weird, but a true gentleman will know how much teasing is the perfect amount of teasing. He won’t make fun or criticize, but he will make you feel special and, in the process, show off how well he knows you.
5. He has opinions, but he doesn’t force them on others
All good men have opinions, but gentlemen don’t always insist on sharing them.
6. He knows who he is
He knows who he is, what he wants and what his purpose in life is. Real gentlemen enjoy compliments just like the rest of us, but they don’t need them to feel worthwhile.
7. He is confident, but not overbearing
Every woman loves a confident man, but it is a fine line between confident and cocky. A gentleman knows that line, and even if he puts a toe on it occasionally, his confidence never comes across as him thinking he is better than anyone else.
8. He doesn’t just tell you he loves you, he shows you
He still tells you he loves you everyday, but his actions back up his words 100 percent of the time.
9. He only has eyes for you
A gentleman’s eye will never wander from the beauty he already has right in front of him. At the end of the day, you know he would never look at another woman the way he looks at you.
10. He values your opinion
And he asks for it regularly. He knows that everyone, especially his wife, has so much to offer and he is eager to know and respect your views.
11. He treats his mother, and your mother right
Mothers always say, “You can tell how your husband will treat you by looking at the way he treats his mother.” It's slightly cliche, but so true. A gentleman is a gentleman in all facets of life, but first and foremost when he is with his mother.
12. He tries to protect you
It may get annoying at times, but he takes his role as protector very seriously and you know he would do anything, (and I mean anything) for you.
13. He takes pride in his appearance
Not in a, “I can’t touch a child because he might get a crumb on my new Armani suit” kind of way, but in an, “It’s obvious he takes care of himself” kind of way.
14. He is well-educated
This doesn’t just mean he has a college degree, or even a masters degree or a PhD. A gentleman takes the time to educate himself about the world he lives in. That may be by going to college or it may be by simply putting forth the effort to take in the world around him. Either way, he usually has an educated opinion on most every subject.
15. He is thoughtful
Women are usually coined as the thoughtful sex. We think of others needs, bake brownies and worry incessantly, but men are just as capable as possessing those qualities; and real gentlemen do.
16. He is respectful of everyone
He takes the time to listen to others and really get to know them. He doesn’t show respect based on deference or social class, but respects everyone for the unique things they bring to the table.
17. He trusts
He trusts you, he trusts himself and he trusts God. A gentleman is not afraid to fail because he knows when you jump, there is always the possibility you will fly. He embraces that possibility and flies every time.
There is not one perfect mold for the real gentleman, but if your spouse has got these qualities going on, then you should be grateful because you made a great choice!
Kelsey is a student at Brigham Young University studying to broaden her horizons through the written word. She loves the outdoors, family, car washes and punny witticisms.