12 questions to ask your spouse to fall in love over and over again
Posted July 12
We’ve heard about the questions you ask that lead to love and the questions you should ask before you get married, but what about after you’ve fallen in love? Shouldn’t you still be getting to know your sweetheart even if you're married?
Love is constantly growing and changing. As time progresses and your family grows, you and your spouse should still take time to get to know each other. Find time this week to ask your honey these 12 questions:
1. What do you remember most about our wedding day?
This can either be sweet or hilarious. Men and women have totally different ways of thinking, so it could be funny to hear what about your wedding stood out to them. Maybe something they remember with clarity passed by in a blur for you. It’s a sweet way to relive the best day of your life together.
2. What’s the worst gift someone has ever given you?
When I moved to Idaho, my best friend thought it would be funny to send me a potato in the mail. It was the dumbest gift I’ve ever received, but at 18 years old, moving from a big city to a small, potato-farming town, I thought it was hilarious. Asking this question is a fun way to share a few laughs about the silly sense of humor (or just horrible taste) people sometimes have when it comes to gift giving.
3. If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?
These type of questions are always fun because you might have a guess as to what the answer might be. If you want to get extra creative, change the question to this: If I were invisible for a day, what do you think I would do?
4. If money weren’t an issue, what kind of house would you want to get and where?
Daydream about what kind of life you’ll have together when you two are billionaires. Whether you fantasize about an Italian villa with acres of vineyards or a beach house right along the San Diego beach, you two have a little dream to share together.
5. If we were to go on America’s Got Talent, what would we do?
You two can share your awesome dance moves or sing a duet together. Bonus points if you perform your million dollar act in your living room.
6. What should the first sentence of my biography say?
Give your love the opportunity to get a little creative about what they want to say about you. It can be silly or sweet, but is sure to be a fun way of seeing how your spouse really sees you.
7. What’s something you never wanted to tell me while we were dating?
Some people have embarrassing secrets that they just try to forget, no matter what. But now, you two are married. You’re two peas in a pod, and whatever embarrassing stories you might have, now is the time to share it with someone.
Maybe you’ll finally be able to laugh about it with your honey ... who loves you no matter what, even if you wet the bed until you were 15.
8. Who do you want to see first when you go to heaven?
Maybe it’s her childhood dog, maybe his grandma. Maybe they don’t know yet. It’s a sweet way to get a little more vulnerable and share your sensitive sides with each other.
9. Where do you see us in 10 years? In 50?
To keep a relationship strong, you need to plan a future together. How many kids will you have in 10 years? Where will you be working? Where do you want to live once you retire? Plan your life together, so its foundation is already strong by the time you get to that point in your life.
10. What do you think your weaknesses are?
A husband and wife should be vulnerable with each other. Be honest about what you think your weaknesses are and don’t be afraid to ask for help and work together to strengthen each other.
11. How is your relationship with God right now?
While God should be at the center of any relationship, you should also continue to strengthen your own personal and individual relationship with him. If you have any struggles about your faith, discuss them with your sweetheart and find ways to pray together.
12. How can I make you happier?
The best husband or wife is someone who puts their spouse first. Your spouse’s happiness should be one of your biggest priorities in life — provided you’re not subjecting yourself to any kind of abuse. If you two work to make each other happy in your relationship, you’ll fall deeper and deeper in love.
Marriage takes work, but being in love doesn’t have to be difficult. Even if you've been married for years, continue to date each other. Get to know each other even after you’ve settled into your new life together. There is always something more you two can do to deepen your love and make your relationship even stronger.