11 things a husband should NEVER tell another woman (for the sake of his marriage)
Posted April 23
Your wife is the most important woman in your life. Every day you’ll interact with many women — while walking on the street, in the workplace and in your circle of friends, but your friendship with them should never interfere with your marriage. Respect your wife by never telling another woman these 11 things:
1. Details about your love life
Don’t share your intimacy troubles with others, especially another woman. Those are personal discussions you should only have with your wife or a professional if needed. With your wife, work together with patience and love to improve intimacy in your marriage.
2. Complaints about your wife
Don’t criticize your wife in front of other women. Respect your spouse by going only to her when you have concerns about things she says or does.
3. Personal family business
Love your family enough to keep family business within the family. Sharing delicate information can lead to others discovering information that should be kept private. And when that happens, it hurts you and the people closest to you.
4. Your own secrets
Confide in your wife and no one else. She should be the person you want to go to first with bad or good news. Keeping secrets with another woman will only harm your marriage.
5. Difficulties in your marriage
When you go to another woman about your marital problems, she might want to comfort you— which steers you into dangerous territory. Work on solving your arguments with your spouse. Talk to her and confide in a trusted family member or professional if you need more help.
6. Cute nicknames
Your intentions might be innocent when you call a female coworker or friend sweetheart or hun, especially since many people use those names for everyone — male or female. Your wife loves it when you have adorable nicknames for her, and those terms of endearment have special meaning to her. Never abuse that love by using them on another woman.
7. When she does something better than your wife
Don’t put another woman above your wife, not only in what you do, but also in what you say. Even if your wife never finds out that you’re comparing her to another woman, it can put that woman in an uncomfortable position.
8. If you want to hang out together
Even if you and your wife are going through a rough patch, never invite another woman to be alone with you. This will hurt your wife and your marriage. Spend time with your female friends in groups, and always with your wife present. Invite a few others and have a great time, but don’t make your marriage suffer because of one night alone with another woman, even if "nothing happens."
9. If you’re considering divorce
You don’t want your children or other family members finding out about your divorce from anyone else, whether the decision is final or not. You aren’t available yet, so wait before telling another woman you're looking to date.
10. Complimenting her too much
It’s fine to tell another woman she looks nice, but don’t make it a habit of complimenting her every day. Your flattery could give her mixed messages; she could think you’re interested in her, start to return the compliments and even flirt a little. Save your marriage by refraining from giving other women praise that could be interpreted as flirtatious.
11. Complimenting the wrong things
While telling a woman she looks beautiful will make her entire day, there are a few compliments you should never give another woman. Complimenting a woman’s body is inappropriate unless she’s your wife. The way you comment about another woman in general could make her think you’re into her, and whether you are or not, that’s not a message you should be sending to another woman.
Be aware that everything you say sends intentional and unintentional messages to your wife and other women. You don’t need to stop interacting with all women once you’re married, but make sure your interactions with them are appropriate. When your wife is most important woman in your life, you’ll have a happy and successful marriage.
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