11 simple mistakes that are ruining your kisses
Posted January 10
It’s a secret fear we all have: what if I’m a bad kisser? Maybe it’s you or maybe it’s him…or maybe it’s just the fact that both of you are making a few of these 11 simple mistakes.
Don’t let these bad habits ruin your smooches:
1. Rushing the kiss
A good kiss is never rushed. The sort of puckers we all see in the movies are never right before she leaves for work; all the really good kisses are slow, deliberate and romantic. Obviously, you just don’t have time to be slow, deliberate and romantic if you are just squeezing in a smooch before the red light turns green.
2. Kissing out of habit
In its own way, kissing out of habit is incredibly sweet. Doing so says you two are so used to locking lips, it's as natural as blinking. Cute, right? But that force of habit is also ruining your kisses — they are routine and predictable. Switch up your smooching to be surprising.
3. Having bad breath
It’s obvious, I know, but it’s a real kiss killer. You could be an amazing kisser, but if your breath smells like your lunch it doesn’t matter. Keeping things minty and fresh (and adding a little lip balm for smooth lips) will amp up your lip-locking game.
4. Only kissing for you
Surprise, surprise —a kiss requires two people and if you are only kissing for yourself, your partner is not going to be happy with the smooch. Kissing is a dance; let him take the lead for a minute, before you playfully steal it back. Keep your thoughts focused on the kiss, but also keep in mind that he wants to be kissed back, too.
5. Kissing the same old way
Really shock your partner by adding a surprise into your kiss. Don’t get too crazy, but kissing with some tingly chapstick or with a cinnamon flavored candy will keep him on his toes.
6. Keeping your hands to yourself
This may have been a rule in school, but it does not apply to kissing. Keeping your hands to your side is a quick way to ruin a kiss — run your fingers through his hair, or place your hand on his chest and kiss away.
7. Not meaning your kiss
The best kisses are the ones where both people are wanting the kiss. Kissing when you don’t want to will make your mind wander and your partner will think you are just smooching to get it over with. It’s fine every once in a while, but not meaning your kiss will ruin any smooch.
8. Opening your eyes
This is a classic “don’t do” in any kiss situation. Keep your eyes closed to heighten your other senses, giving you a better kissing experience. It’s also sorta creepy to keep your eyes open, so do your parter a favor and keep ‘em closed.
9. Kissing only on the lips
A really good kiss can mean kissing your darling on their jaw line, their collarbone and their forehead, along with their lips. Sneak a kiss on the inside of her wrist, or on the tip of his nose before actually locking lips.
10. Only having one type of kiss
There’s a big difference between the peck on the lips you give your mister when he leaves for work and the romance in your first kiss that happened on your third date. Only having one type of kiss is a bad habit to get into. Vary your kisses and don’t be predictable; let him know what’s on your mind by the way you kiss him.
11. Lacking anticipation
So much of the kiss happens before the two of you actually touch lips. The way you look up into his eyes before stealing a quick glance at his lips, or the way you step closer and how he puts his hand carefully on your waist, ever so slightly pulling you closer. That anticipation leads up to a stellar smooch; don’t skip this step.
And there you go — 11 mistakes to avoid to keep your kisses memorable and sweet.
Emily is a graduate of Brigham Young University and is a staunch believer in pie as breakfast food. Read more about her travels and tastings at ercummings.blogspot.com.