10 ways you can feel fully connected with your spouse
Posted December 20, 2016
Sometimes the errands and day-to-day tasks of life get in the way of feeling connected with our spouse. But that's something your relationship can't afford to experience. By doing the little things, we can feel more connected and in sync with our partner. Make this a priority in your relationship and check out these 10 little ways to keep that fire burning:
1. Say “I love you”
Always say these three words. In the morning, at night, after lunch, when you are grocery shopping, when it's bathtime for the kids....Use these words so much that it becomes tiresome. Tell your spouse why you love them so much. Your spouse cares for you deeply and the best way to express your love and adoration for them is by saying the “L” word constantly.
2. Always embrace
It does not matter how you embrace each other as long as you do it. Snuggle up during a movie, give him a big hug when he is brushing his teeth or surprise her with a cuddle when she's sitting on the couch just scrolling social media.
You don’t need a full on make out session to feel connected to your spouse; keep it simple with a little peck on the lips. Make sure you aren't just kissing once a day. Stay connected with your spouse by giving them little smooches all day long. This tiny action will reinforce your relationship.
4. Send a loving message
It could be a short text message or a little voicemail, but just sending some affection when you can't physically be there will help you feel connected with your spouse. Let your love spend a couple of minutes thinking about you in the middle of their busy day.
This is the simplest way to feel connected to someone. Truly listen to your spouse when they are talking to you. If he calls when you are running around, ask to call him back when you aren't distracted. You can't open up to someone if they aren't really listening to you; So sit down on the couch (when all the kids are asleep) and talk to each other. Having a real conversation (not just small talk) will help you both stay in tune with on another's lives and emotions.
6. Pray together
Regardless if you are religious or not, you can take the time out of your day to go down a list of things that you appreciate in your lives and in one another. If you are religious, then saying a prayer asking for God to help your spouse and your relationship is a powerful way to solidify your relationship.
7. Take a stroll
Not only is it romantic to stroll around in a park with your love, but it’s an easy way to put some time aside to talk with your spouse. Find time in your week to do this often.
8. Memory exercises
This one is my favorite on the list. Take a moment out of your day to bring up a memory with you spouse. It could be your first kiss or maybe the time you both said goodbye to one another...then ended up walking in the same direction. Whatever the memory may be, bring it up to your significant other and watch how your partner's face lights up.
9. Give each other pet names
Using a pet name for the other is a way to feel instantly connected with each other. My man calls me Xena and I love it. Every time he says it, it reminds me not only of how he sees me, but also that he puts thought into creating a nickname for me. Now every time he uses the name Xena, I can't help but blush. Watch how your spouse reacts when you start calling him Popeyes or Hercules.
10. Hold hands
This does not only have to happen in public. When you are with your partner, take the opportunity to reach for their hand. You could be laying on the couch or even sitting across the table from one another. Simply reach for your spouse's hand as a gesture of your affection for them.
Your partner wants to be loved by you...and you want to be loved by them. Know how to express that affection in many ways to feel connected, appreciated and loved in your relationship.