10 ways to deal with the dating feast or famine
Posted December 4, 2016
There’s this thing called the dating feast or famine. You have a dating feast when everyone is expressing interest in you and you’re going on lots of dates. A dating famine is the complete opposite. You aren’t dating anyone (haven’t in awhile) and Netflix, pizza and the comfort of your own bed is the only love in your life.
Every single one of us has been in these two positions at least once in our lives. The dating feast and famine comes with an emotional rollercoaster that you feel like you’ll never be able to get off of. If you’re in a dating feast or famine, how do you deal with it? How do you make it through? Here are 10 ways you can overcome both (and perhaps win out in the end).
1. First, breathe
When you’ve got a date lined up for every day this week or a lot of boys are expressing interest, it can be overwhelming. All the added emotional stress can make your thoughts run rampant. Don’t forget to breathe. Take a moment to pause and de-stress. Take things one day, one date and one boy at a time. While it is stressful, remember dating stresses them out just as much as it does you.
2. Remember: you’re not going to marry everyone
With so many guys interested, you can’t help but wonder if one of them could be "the one". Don’t get your hopes up. Chances are, none of them will be the one. Don’t rush things. Most importantly, don’t start planning your wedding before you even go on the first date. Focus on the date first and have fun.
3. Feel flattered when people want to take you out
With so many people expressing their interest, feel flattered that they’re interested. It means they think you are worth spending time with. It’s not every day that someone gets to take you out on the town, spend money on you and make you feel loved.
4. If you’re not interested, don’t lead them on
Be kind enough to agree to a date, but if you aren’t interested, don’t lead the poor guy on (same goes for you, guys!). Nothing is worse than trying to figure out how the other person feels, only to find out several dates down the road he or she was never interested in the first place. If you know it’s not going to work initially, turn them down in the nicest way you can.
5. Enjoy it while it lasts
The feast won’t last forever. Enjoy the time you have to be treated right. You’ll get a fun, fanciful few dates out of it with someone (hopefully) nice and handsome. Despite the stress, dating is full of great fun and adventures.
6. You are beautiful, no matter what
Just because guys aren’t asking you out doesn’t mean they think you’re ugly. You are a beautiful woman, no matter what you think. Guys who won’t ask you out are simply too stunned by your beauty to do anything else. Don’t underestimate yourself just because you aren’t dating anyone.
7. It isn’t the end of the world
The world is still turning, believe it or not. Even though the dating scene has come to a screeching halt, it doesn’t mean you will never get married. One day you will. You deserve to have the blessing of a spouse in your life, the time, however, is not now. Trust in God’s timing.
8. Do things for yourself
The best thing about not dating is you’ve got more time and money on your hands. Go out and do something for yourself! Travel, go out on the town, have a girl’s night out every week...just do something fun! Sometimes the single life is the best life.
9. Spend time with your close friends and family
Don’t forget your friends and family. They will always be there for you when you need them. Spend time with those closest to you. You don’t need a man in your life to make you happy when you’ve got friends and family who put a smile on your face.
10. Remember who you are
It may be easy to lose yourself at times. Remember who you are, your place in the world and who you want to be. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. The right guy will come along and love you for who you are, not the mask you put on. Learn to love yourself just the way you are and you’ll live a much happier life.
Most importantly, whether you’re in a dating feast or dating famine, remember that one day you will fall in love. The right person will come along to sweep you off your feet and you’ll both build a beautiful life together. You just need to be patient until that day finally comes.